When a butterfly is about to emerge out of the chrysalis, it splits its envelope along what are known as Lines of Weakness. Vicky loved the idea of one’s lines of weakness unlocking the path to a transformed life.
This page is dedicated to the memory of Vicky.
Comments are opened: write about a good memory of Vicky, how she influenced your life, what she meant to you.
-Michel Pettigrew
Year two is now passed
and still I feel glum
Not riddled with grief
maybe I’m just numb
The thoughts of our childhood
still dance in my head
We shared some tough times
each one perhaps led
to the people we became
and the love we once knew
Though inside an unrest
good times more than a few
The trips to the grandparents
in snow and scorching heat
The games at the table
the foods we would eat
The animals we sheltered
and loved so dearly
Cats, ducks, and fish
and of course, there was Charlie
Music daily echoing
heard through the walls
Sometimes we sat playing
together with our dolls
The finding of God
was there in the mix
the hope of our lives
being forever fixed
We carried our wounds
and pains and our past
into our new families
hoping it would cast
a new light, a new hope
a new way, and resolve
that inside it would change
and maybe now solve
the sadness and grief
we both seemed to share
Hinting but not discussing
neither of us dared
I cherish the sweet moments
we shared at the end
More knowledge did come
from the words that you penned
Understanding, compassion
empathy abounds
when opening our hearts,
what we find does astound
We are more alike than we think
with those whom we walk
we share much in common
should we admit it and just talk
Life lessons are taught
sometimes seen in reverse
we learn from some,
though some we rehearse
I cherish the lessons
your life has taught me
Holding them close
together they leave
an indelible etching
on my mind and my heart
our lives intertwined
sisters from the start
I love and miss you
and appreciate the years
moments shared together
through laughter, fun, and tears
My only sister.
Through thick and through thin
You are free, enjoying heaven
Thankful, my heart broadly grins
I love you Vicky
©️1.29.24 Debby Lee
Today I sure miss you
like any other day
I think of our talks
your wisdom and ways
Thoughtful words so well written
with a craft all your own
I have gifts made by you
which certainly did show
The careful artful way
of saying your truth
Your deep felt heart wish
This you’ve done from your youth
Using words, textures, and color
Expressing your creativity
It was works done with love
Made special for others, and for me
So much more meaning they carry
now that you’ve passed
Remembrances of care and of love
your thoughtfulness outlasts
far beyond the years
you lived here on this earth
shared with so many
right from the beginning, your birth
You’re a daughter, a sister,
wife, mother, and friend
You touched our lives and hearts
Our love for you won’t end
Today, marks a year
still hard to grasp you are gone
You are loved, missed, and thanked
for your love gifts that speak on.
©2023 Debby Lee
Happy Heavenly Birthday, Vicky. Today marks your first birthday in heaven. While we are happy you are out of pain and reunited with family members who have gone on before you, we love you, are being thought of and you are sorely missed. I love you. ❤
I’m missing you Vicky
There’s an imprint of you in me
I miss your voice
Telling me it’s going to be okay
I reach out with my hand
But I cannot touch
I want to catch a glimpse of your eyes
But there is nothing to be seen
I’m eating some frozen fruit bars
In your memory
It’s the very last contact we shared
I was feeding them to you
So you would hold on a little longer
Hold on to this world
How could I have known
That a few hours later
It would be your last breath
In that stillness
The most bizarre phenomenon happened
You were here and gone
Unchanged
To this day
Here and gone
Nous venons d’apprendre le décès de Vicky.
Nos pensées sont avec vous.
Bon courage.
I was deeply saddened to receive news today about Vicky. We spent only a few hours together but in that time I learned so much from Vicky. Vicky was a warm and caring person who always supported her loved ones… Her Tarot reading sessions were an honour to share and I know she is now with her angels in a place of peace. Love & Light my lovely lady. You will be missed 🙏🏻⭐️🌙💚
I will miss you my friend!!! Thank you for touching my life in so many ways, for your gentle pushes, your unique wisdom and your oh so powerful spirit of laughter at this space…. You flowed with the wind, and climbed with the Sun. The stars you knew by their light and the Universe was your guide! Until we meet again my friend I will keep your light in my heart and pass it on to each stranger with a smile!!
Butterfly Kisses and Fairies 🧚♀️ Play.
I sit here quietly not wanting to move
enveloped by covers, cloaked in this cocoon
feeling God’s presence though I say not a word
my heart is indeed full, a tear does emerge
missing my sister, my one sibling I had
some of the past memories can make me feel glad
others bring sadness, those not understood
I would take away her pain if only I could
I’ll never forget you, my sister, my friend
we became closer, as your life started to end
honesty, truth, revealing the heart
treasured possessions, before one departs
memories we hold onto from childhood till death
from then until now, as you breathed your last breath
we shared a history no one else can claim
I hold them securely, like pictures in frames
I love you, my sister, my confidante, friend
life does go on, though your life did indeed end
but endings aren’t endings when memories surge
they whisper in shadows, then quietly emerge
giving way to snapshots from yesterday’s years
of a life lived together, sharing joys, and some fears
I love and do miss you, my sister, my friend
but hold to the hope I will see you again.❤️
©2022 Debby Lee Macchione
I knew Vicky for a short time, but she is someone I will hold close in my memories.
The first time Vicky and I met, I was showing her and Michel a condo we were renting. She was so excited. I remember thinking… ‘I really like this lady… she is my kind of person’…:) We could only see each others eyes with our masks on, I could tell that her beautiful eyes likely equaled a beautiful smile.. they just beamed. She was always so kind and genuine to me, something that just touched me to the core. I always enjoyed hearing from her. She was smart, organized and and just a really, really good person. I will miss her emails and texts as she always made me smile. I am grateful to have met such kind soul in my life time… the world needs more rays of sunshine like her.
I feel so honored to continue to connect with Vicky as she blends with the cosmos. Her open heart, her creative genius, passion, and willingness to be one with the light, her sense of humor, generosity, and curiosity, so many gifts, and so much love given. We’ve been lucky enough to be part of her life, for a brief moment in time here, and throughout eternity, as one.
Thinking of Vicky today as I cut daffodils in my garden – her favorite flower!
Vicky, I sure miss you!
It’s strange that just a few short weeks ago, we were on zoom talking about our families, our growing up years, some fears, and realizations of life as we have gotten older. I now wish I would have recorded these talks, but they will continue to be close in my heart and mind.
Thankfully I have many memories growing up as your pesky little sister with the family get-togethers, typical sibling quarreling, and making up again. We shared a love for animals, of music, singing together with mom and playing our instruments with dad. As we got married and had kids, we enjoyed the holiday gatherings as we watched our ‘kidlets’ (as you called them) grow up.
Inviting me to your scheduled trip to Mendocino after mom passed was unforgettable and just what we both needed to help grieve and heal. I am so thankful that you coached me through my bout of cancer. Taking off your ‘sister’ hat, you facilitated in helping me clarify my thoughts and decide what I wanted for my treatment rather than just following what the doctor or others that I should do.
I certainly miss our email correspondence, zoom calls, and phone conversations, but I do know you are in a far better place. There is no more pain, no tears or sorrow. You are surrounded by loved ones who have gone before you. What a joyous celebration that must be!
I love you Vicky
Vicky will be missed by everyone who was lucky enough to connect with her. I will miss her positivity, the gentle and easy going nature she brought to our conversations. On many occasions, she had mentioned to me how fortunate she was to have you [Michel] in her life. You were there for her during tough times and good times. It was sweet to frequently see her call you “Mon Amour”. It was a joy for me to have met Vicky.
May she rest in peace.
Bellissima Vicky… you are so missed! I miss the sparkles in your eyes (your inner child shines so strong) your joy, your fierceness, your wisdom, your creativity.
I treasure our 1/1 sessions, the Shamanic reading where I got to know you better and directly connected to you and the power animal session. I loved your enthusiasm discovering the fox as your totem animal. You expressed your joy like a child and it filled my heart with so much love and joy too.
You are the proof that as we grow older, the inner child shines through stronger as we totally connect, accept and shower lots of love to this precious part of us.
I have seen foxes everyday since last Tuesday.
You have a special place in my heart and I am forever grateful to have crossed your light.
I was looking forward to come and visit you… I may still come
Ci vediamo bella anima!
Vicky, nous gardons un très bon souvenir de toi. Tu es une femme d’une grande chaleur humaine, en pensant à toi il me vient à l’esprit douceur, écoute et toujours souriante…Nous sommes bien heureux de t’avoir connu…Repose en paix. Hélène et Robert
Oh Vicky, how I will miss your kindness, insight and wisdom. We could chat for hours on Zoom about all sorts of things and I am blessed that you are my soul family. When we were put into breakout rooms with Sharon in ISC the bond and connection between the 3 of us was so strong, and how the messages from cards, or drawings in the chakra graph sessions would follow a theme and be so strong. Your courage and dignity in facing your illness is an inspiration to me. We may not have met in person but you are my friend, my soul family and my life is richer for the experience. Fly high Vicky and I know your energy will be around me xx
This was a busy week, Vicky. I was driving back from the airport where I dropped off your daughter and granddaughter. I felt like I should be calling someone to share this week’s experiences. You know who I wanted to call? Yes, I wanted to call you. I figure that this is going to keep happening for a while. I figured today that I will think of you every time I see a great blue heron. Every time I come back from work or wake up in the morning, I will feel like someone is missing. Every time I shop for groceries, I will have to do what doesn’t come naturally and just consider what I need for myself.
We shared so many years. I am grateful for that. This incarnation known in this life as Michel, it will remain shaped by your presence. The beautiful melodies that you are, although they are not being played through the instrument know as Vicky, they still live through eternity. They touched me the moment I first heard the first few notes and they will forever touch me.
I remember her sharing her artwork and words. I was in awe of her talent but also her wisdom and kind soul. She was always so sweet and such an inspiration. She was a beautiful light on this Earth but in the heavens she’ll shine forever.
Au revoir ma belle Vicky, je suis triste de te voir partir mais tu auras toujours une place importante dans mon coeur. Ta douceur et ta créativité m’ont toujours impressionnés, quelle artiste, surtout a préparer les cafés au lait.😉 Je vais m’ennuyer mais, te savoir en paix, me console. Je t’envoie un gros câlin xxx
Chère Vicky, je conserve un excellent souvenir de ton sens de l’accueil, de ta créativité, de ton accent charmant, des petites attentions que tu avais envers l’autre.
Tu as su partager amour et tendresse avec Michel toutes ces années dans un bonheur réciproque beau à voir cheminer.
Repose en paix de là-haut.
What the Caterpillar calls the end of the world, the Master calls the Butterfly. Just the next stage on your journey Mother. Good luck.
I miss you Vicky. I enjoyed very much our coffee chats (en français bien sûr!). Grâce à toi I am learning to become more creative: I love doing collages, making cards, trying to use watercolour paints. I’ll miss your thoughtful and gracious friendship, and the way you looked at the world. Be at peace dear Vicky.